What if… someone really heard all of what you were trying to explain —
how you were feeling and why —
instead of only hearing the parts that felt hurtful to them?
And then… neither of you really accomplished anything.
There was a time in my life when I struggled with that.
I’ve never been very good at putting into words exactly how I was feeling or trying to say.
And sometimes… it came out wrong.
Or something I said was taken the wrong way.
Been there… done that.
Over time, I guess I’ve learned to listen more.
And I’ve definitely learned to let a person finish their whole train of thought before reacting.
Sometimes, for me, it’s better to walk away and mull it over instead of reacting right away.
Most of the time, I’ve found that after you take time to sort through what that person was really trying to say…
you can see a different perspective.
Not that I always agree with them —
but I can understand where they’re coming from better.
This is something I’ve even learned to do online with my sites.
When something breaks…
isn’t doing what it’s supposed to do…
or is just being a genuine PITA…
Those are the times you need to walk away and calm down.
Because when you come back, your mind seems to say,
“Okay… I’m ready to tackle this now.”
Even with support messages — and we all get them —
telling us everything we’ve done wrong…
Maybe you missed putting in a code…
or forgot to set a claim page…
There was a time I would get so upset with myself.
But now?
I just laugh… fix the problem… and move on.
Most of you know my favorite line by now:
“See… that proves I’m not a machine — I still make mistakes.” (giggle)
I’ve struggled with this my whole life…never seen, never heard, BUT do what others say. I learned the hard way that I prefer to stay quiet – if I want to preserve myself, my inner peace, then I have to stay quiet.
Dani
Dani… thank you for being honest about this. 💙
I understand why staying quiet can feel like the safest place… especially when it feels like you’re not being heard anyway.
But I want you to know… your voice matters. It always has.
And even sharing this right here is a step — and I’m really glad you did.
You’re not invisible here. 💙